Horses are incredibly intelligent and sensitive. To have a good connection, trust and respect must be developed. Signs of affection from a horse indicate it likes and trusts you. Examples of such signs are nickering, leaning, nudging your hand – all ways of showing appreciation for your presence.
Nuzzling
Horses crave interaction and nurturing. To show affection, they "nuzzle" by putting their nose against us. This shows how much they mean to us. It also makes it easier to handle them. Other signs they like and trust us include:
Direct eye contact.
Licking or chewing when relaxed.
Ears moving toward us.
Approaching for petting without fear. This means the bond of trust is growing!
Licking
Horses show affection to humans by licking. It's a gentle brushing of the lips or tongue, like how they do to another horse. This is a sign of trust and contentment. It can look like the horse is trying to show their calmness and relax. When apart, horses may start licking each other to show their love.
When horses lick humans, it usually means they trust them. But be careful - avoid sudden movements that could spook your four-legged friend.
Following
Does your horse follow you around the paddock or grazing field? If they do, it's a sign of trust. But, it may take time for your horse to learn to trust you. Be patient and build a relationship through mutual respect.
Horses also show trust through eye contact. This is like them "checking-in" with you. It makes them feel safe. Horses may also display affection through nickering or whisking away flies with their tails. Pay attention to these subtle signs – it shows how much they care about communication!
Body Language
Horses are intuitive creatures. You can tell if they like and trust you by their body language. Here's an article exploring how their body language reflects their opinion of you. Check it out to find out the clear signs that your horse likes and trusts you.
Ears forward
When a horse has his ears pricked forward or to the side, it's a sign of trust and interest. His eyes may be fixed on you, or on the activity. If one ear is back and one is forward, this could mean the horse is more interested in you than the other horses around.
If both ears are curled back, the horse might be more vigilant. Flicking backwards can be a response to sound or movement from behind. Monitor this, as it could be a sign of fear or pain. If both ears remain pricked for a long time, it's likely the horse enjoys being engaged with you.
The shape and curvature of the ears can also tell you something. Straightened, pointed ears often mean fear or aggression, while curved tipped ones usually mean relaxation. Understanding a horse's body language and behaviors is key to forming a strong bond. This could turn them into a loyal companion who looks forward to your company every day!
Tail wagging
A horse's tail is like a big wave of emotion. Its movements can show what the horse is feeling and telling you. But not all tail wags are the same. Oscillating tail motions usually mean pleasure and excitement. Circular or figure-eight movements can mean irritation or unease. If your horse swishes in a relaxed and steady pattern, he's likely expressing contentment and trust. This happens when their tail muscles are relaxed, allowing for plenty of movement.
A happy horse will keep their ears facing you and make eye contact. Negative emotions will cause the ears to go back and the tail to be tucked against the body. Slow down if you see this.
Relaxed posture
A horse feeling comfortable and trusting of you will show it in their body language. Their head will be held up high, ears pointed forward, neck relaxed, nose in the air, eyes wide open and they will seem alert.
But, if their ears are flattened or pinned back against their head and their head is tucked in tight to their neck, it means they are feeling uneasy.
When grooming or handling a horse, look for a softening in their eyes and some horses may even close their eyes. This shows that they have trusted you.
Also, when the horse lowers their upper lip when touched, it means they have accepted your touch as one of friendship.
Interaction
Interaction is essential when attempting to build trust with a horse. When relaxed near you, they show signs such as nickering, lip licking, stretching out their muzzle and more. These are all indications that your horse trusts and likes you.
Let's explore some other signs a horse displays when they like and trust you:
Allowing you to touch them
Horses and humans can form strong bonds. But it takes time, mutual respect and trust for a horse to let you touch them. If they don't seem nervous or tense, it means they like you. If they press against you, it shows they trust you. They may even nibble your clothes or sniff out treats.
A sign that they really like you is if they nicker/whinny when they hear your voice. They may even let you groom them and perform tricks. This is a sign of safety, and is essential for success in shows and performance rallies.
Responding to your commands
When a horse is obedient and follows your commands, it means he likes and trusts you. He will be attentive when you're around and excited to interact with you. If he is willing to leave the other horses when you're present or follows you around, it's a strong sign of trust.
Also look out for signs of responsiveness:
Showing curiosity or interest when you approach
Having a relaxed body language
No fear when his space is invaded
Smoothly transitioning between gaits on command
Standing still when asked
Doing commands without hesitation or argument
Coming back to you after being released in an open area.
Showing curiosity
When you enter the stable or field, if a horse turns its head or upper body towards you, moves closer to investigate, or allows you to approach, it is a sign that they like and trust you. On the other hand, if they panic, run away, or show signs of nervousness – they likely don't trust you yet.
If your horse is relaxed when being groomed, tacked up or taken out for exercise – this is a good sign that they trust and respect you.
For timid horses, it is important to socialize them with other people or animals. This will help them adapt better and respond favorably to individuals outside of their regular routine. Once trust is established, it's essential to be kind and patient each time you interact. Providing consistent love and care on a regular basis will make the bond stronger over time.
Grooming
Grooming is an awesome way to get closer to your horse! It can even show you how much your horse trusts you. When they trust you, they'll be more relaxed when you brush them. Look for signs that your horse likes you – pushing into the brush, licking and chewing, or nuzzling. These are all good signs of trust!
Asking to be groomed
A horse that likes being with you will ask for grooming. Signs like nuzzling, pushing, pawing and even snorting mean your horse wants to be groomed. This shows trust. Horses are often protective when it comes to grooming. If he feels you are calm, patient and trustworthy, he'll let you groom him.
When your horse relaxes after asking for grooming, it means he trusts you more. Pay attention to how he expresses himself. Behavior and sounds give clues to whether he trusts you. If he's uncomfortable or anxious during grooming, it means he doesn't feel safe. Address these issues to get more trust from your horse.
Enjoying being groomed
Grooming is an essential part of forming a strong relationship with your horse. Most people know how to brush and do other common forms of grooming, but there are other subtle ways to tell if your horse trusts and likes the experience.
A 'laughter shake' is one way. This is when the horse closes their eyes, lowers their ears and tail against their head, while staying in one spot. It shows they're enjoying the grooming. Other signs include leaning against you or relaxing into brush strokes.
If your horse comes to you for attention or follows you around, it means they trust you deeply. When horses trust us, they accept us touching sensitive areas like their fetlocks, ears, or muzzle.
A relaxed yet attentive posture, with open eyes and mouth, breathing through their nose and soft facial features, all show just how far your bond has grown!
Showing pleasure when being groomed
Horses should express pleasure when being groomed. If your horse appears relaxed, it is a sign of trust. Signs of pleasure can include a half-closed eye, chewing the bit, licking lips, or even nickering. If your horse turns towards you while being groomed, it is a sign of comfort. Lifting their feet when asked shows trust and satisfaction with the grooming.
If a horse appears withdrawn, it means they don't feel safe. It is essential to gain their trust, even if you don't plan to ride them.
Bonding
Bonding with your horse comes first to create a trusting relationship. It won't happen immediately, though. You need to be patient, present, and consistent.
There are some signs that your horse is beginning to bond with you. Let's look at these signs that show your horse is forming a special connection with you:
Your horse is more relaxed in your presence.
Your horse is more responsive to your cues.
Your horse seeks out your attention.
Your horse has a more positive attitude.
Your horse follows you around.
Your horse shows signs of affection.
Seeking you out
A horse liking and trusting you is easy to spot. If they come to you in their paddock or pen, it's a sign of closeness. It could be for attention, curiosity, or just wanting your company.
You might also see friendly signs. They stretch their neck out and rub against you for scratches or to push off you. They may also try to find treats in your pockets with their muzzle.
Watch their body language. Forward-facing ears show interest. But if they turn away, it could mean they're scared. If their head is towards you, they're open to being close. Relaxed eyes and soft jaw muscles mean they're secure.
Playful nibbles on your clothing are a good sign. They don't always know the difference between food and clothes. This means they're comfortable enough to play with you. Horses understand boundaries, so let them explore when they're with you. This builds their trust in you and their environment.
Enjoying your company
When a horse likes you, it's a good sign they trust you. They'll show it in different ways. They may stand close, nuzzle or lick. It's important to set ground rules, like respecting boundaries and knowing when to touch.
Signs of enjoyment around humans:
Lowering head and neck for a friendly nudge.
Lipping around arm when nuzzling, likes being petted there.
Yawning when standing near, indicating relaxation.
Purring with lips back, happy facial expression.
Rolling in dirt, content and happy.
Being excited to see you
A horse's trust and affection is obvious. When you come to see them, they'll nicker, whinny, and neigh. They also love it when we talk to them warmly. From a distance, they may prick their ears forward, noticing your presence.
The horse will stand still for you to collect its halter and lead rope. It won't bring the items to you, but may brush its shoulder or hind against the wall; this means it's happy with your company.
Your horse may then try rubbing noses with you. This is a sign of happiness and comfort – your bond!
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: How do I know if my horse likes and trusts me?
A: A sign that your horse likes and trusts you is that they will come to you in the pasture or paddock instead of avoiding you. You can also tell from their body language if they are relaxed and calm around you.
Q: What are other signs a horse likes and trusts me?
A: Other signs a horse likes and trusts you include the horse following you around, coming to you for treats or scratches, and allowing you to groom them without being resistant or nervous.
Q: How can I get a horse to like and trust me?
A: You can get a horse to like and trust you by building a bond with them through patience and consistency. Speak to them calmly and confidently, give them treats, and groom them often.